Thursday, June 23, 2011

Objections to Adoption

I just listened to this on another adoptive families blog and it is so truthful...please take a few minutes to listen.

Monday, June 13, 2011

Always Learning

Always Learning and liking to teach and share because it’s that important….

Yesterday we attended our late church service because that is the service the bible school kids were going to participate and sing in, and our sweet EJ was in. **side note** I am so proud of our EJ she sang all the songs and did so well; usually she will not sing in church; she is growing up!

Anyhow we are early church people because Mr. Mo does not do well at all in late service. That’s kind of his sleepy time, even though we stopped giving morning naps, he just cannot be confined to a pew at this time of day.

So my learning point.

Mo has definite trigger points. Hunger or sleepiness and he is a different little boy. He hits and throws fits, and did I mention he hits. So yesterday in church he was hitting me and getting upset and I tried as many distractions as I could until I had to take him out. Left to roam and be distracted from his sleepiness helped.

While I was in church with him I kept thinking oh man I wonder how many people are watching this, and then I just realized it doesn’t matter. They may judge or have opinions, but they don’t realize or know, like I do, where this is coming from, and it’s Ok.

As an adoptive parent I have learned that there is normal 2 year old behavior and then there is behavior related from trauma and trauma that hits as your brain develops.

For instance when Moses hits his sister when she is egging him on or teasing him; normal two year old behavior….when he hits and throws fits over one of his triggers, this is a behavior that has developed from trauma early in life and that is the only way he knows to react. So my job as a parent is to not induce more trauma but help him learn to react differently; which takes time.

With EJ I am starting to realize more of her triggers as well that I didn’t realize when she was younger and am now trying to develop different ways to help her too.

So as much as I might not always like adoption education it really is so beneficial, but also more importantly what I want to pass along, especially to the women, is to TRUST your instincts. Trust what God has instilled in you as a Mom, because more than any education your God given, Holy Spirit driven instincts work the best.

**See post below for info on our next fund raiser** God Bless!

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Clean Up, Clean Out, Donate

Turn your unused items into a blessed gift for orphans. My Family is jointly holding a Rummage Sale with the Bailey Family, to raise money for the fees associated with bringing the next members of our families “out of Africa.” The sale will be held in my church's Family Center on July 23rd.

We will be collecting gently used items that may be sold to fund the obscene cost of adoption. Please contact me to arrange for pick up of your donated items at least one week prior to the sale.

I will have more details on the sale later...we may be raffling some pretty cute baby quilts and I want even my bloggy friends to be able to buy tickets if you want.

I have been reading so many stories lately of orphans that are suffering so much and it breaks my heart even more. Please pray for all orphans of the world and ask God to show you what you can do to help!

God Bless

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Wow, where have I been??

Hey Everyone!

I just wanted to drop a quick line. Life has been crazy busy...we are seriously attacking the paperwork phase of this adoption, and with other life happenings I have had zero time. Of course there are a lot of things on my heart, but hopefully I can share very soon. With 2 funerals last week, both very hard and one hit close to home, EJ's last day of preschool, a holiday, and adoption education training...well let's just say the blogs are neglected.

So please stay tuned!

God bless!